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1. I have a new sex column at SexIs online magazine. I started Project: Happily Ever After to offer marriage advice, based on the lessons I learned while improving my own marriage. Sex, obviously, is one part of an overall happy marriage, so I’ve periodically posted here on the topic. But I’ve always held back a bit—mostly because I wasn’t sure how you all felt about me writing about sex. Nervous? Uncomfortable? Embarrassed to read about it while at work? So, in order to spare those of you who would rather not know the details of my personal sex life, I’ve decided to chronicle my most recent sex project over at SexIs. Of course, they are paying me to write about my sex life, so there’s that, too. In any event, you are welcome to read along if you are interested. I’ll be posting there roughly every other week. Here’s my first post.
2. I’ve chosen Kathy as the October Commenter of the Month. Not only does she comment on nearly every single post, she offers useful advice that the entire community here can learn from. And she makes me laugh! Her reward is a Poken, which is a cute little flash drive that helps you share your social networking data more easily with others. They come in adorable little shapes. Kathy will be receiving the one that looks like a Ninja. If you’d like a Poken for yourself, please purchase it from my friend Andi at Misadventures with Andi. She currently has more of these things than she knows what to do with.
3. The November Commenter of the Month will win scrapbooking software. This is a re-gift. I got it as swag, but I’m about as likely to keep a scrapbook as an elephant is to eat sushi with chopsticks. I just know I have readers who would love this software, so comment away.
4. Why I don’t offer advice via email. This blog isn’t what pays my bills. Other types of writing do (see #7 for more on this). I wish I had enough time to answer every single email that comes my way, but I just don’t. Some weeks, when I’m on a tight deadline for the paying work, I just get overwhelmed. More important, there is at least one troll who emails me fake questions—so I have a hard time separating the heartfelt emails from the bogus ones. And most important, I like to answer your questions on the blog, so the entire community here can work together to solve your problem. I think this worked wonderfully this past weekend when I blogged about faking orgasms—it was a true collaborative process and the input from the community made the advice even better. This isn’t to say that I want you to stop emailing me. I love your emails! I just want you all to know why I don’t always respond. I felt terribly guilty about not responding to every single email.
5. Why my posting frequency is erratic. Speaking of deadlines, I have a big book deadline coming up in December. Ideally, I like to post here 5 days a week, because doing so makes me feel like a rock star. Right now? I just can’t pull it off. I realize that erratic posting is frustrating. I thank you for hanging with me anyway.
6. I’m in Woman’s Day. Writer Denise Schipani interviewed me about marital lies. Cool, eh?
7. Want to know how I really earn a living by working at home? Check out this ghost writing blog that I’m collaborating on with a couple writer buddies.
8. There seems to be a consensus regarding blowjobs. You all want me to write about them. Consider this fair warning. My next post will be about blowjobs and it will probably be titled something like, “Don’t read this while you are at work.”
9. I’m an award winner! Fellow blogger Erin Wise at BeatNiksBeatOnLife has given me the One Lovely Blog Award. I’ve never won an award for my writing, and I’ve always wanted to be able to refer to myself as “an award winning writer,” so this is a huge honor.  As part of the award, I’m supposed to suggest 15 other lovely blogs. Here are the blogs that I read regularly and why:

The Daily Norm, because I love reading about what abnormally famous people do in their normal time. (This is how I learned about Alexa DiCarlo’s blog, by the way)

The Real Princess Diaries, because professional escort Alexa DiCarlo has opened my eyes about all things sex related.

I Hate My Message Board, because if Tracy O’Connor didn’t like to eat pork brains from a can, I might be tempted to think of her as my soul mate (as the Wiccans, who apparently don’t like me very much, define the term)

Problogger.net, because I don’t know nearly enough about blogging and Darren seems to continually find new stuff to teach me

Copyblogger, because, even after earning a bachelor’s degree in journalism and working 18 years as a fulltime writer, I can still improve my writing. The people here are the ones to help me do it.

Penelope Trunk, because even though I no longer need career advice (I gave the big fat finger to the “man” long ago), I still find her posts delightful, especially when she curses or writes about blowjobs.

Nandoism, because he is an umbrella-drink loving, big-hair promoting, incredibly endearing guy who doesn’t mind answering my incessant questions about how to improve my blowjob technique

The Discomfort Zone, because Tim Brownson is the only life coach I know of who writes about his testicles. Oh, and I can hear his English accent ooze right off the page, and I just love English accents. The only accent that is better is an Aussie one, which is almost the same thing—but a tad manlier in a cowboy-boot-wearing sort of way.

Gerald Weber’s SEO Blog, because I will probably never understand computer algorithms and Gerald seems to understand that about me.

Happiness in this World, because this Buddhist physician should be treating every single one of us.

Recalled to Health, because there’s no way Alex Lickerman (the physician in the blog I just mentioned) would have enough time to treat all of us, so we’ll need Tim Hennessey, MD, to help out. I’ve interviewed Dr. Tim before. He’s a sweetheart, and he writes one of the most down to earth health blogs around. He updates once a month.

Mothering Outside the Lines, because Jennifer Margulis has opened my eyes to alternative ways of parenting

Misadventures with Andi, mentioned earlier, because Andi is one of my virtual BFFs

Edgy Mama, because Edgy is one of my other virtual BFFs

My Faith Project, because Jennifer Haupt continually keeps me thinking about better ways of living

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In this free e-book, you’ll learn some of the strategies I used to turn my Mr. Good for Nothing into my Mr. Good for Something, including ten Relationship Rules.