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Total Recall by Dan Savage Long story short: I cheated on my boyfriend three years ago. I admitted it nine months ago, and we’ve Click here to read
Total Recall by Dan Savage Long story short: I cheated on my boyfriend three years ago. I admitted it nine months ago, and we’ve Click here to read
All About the Benjamins by Dan Savage I’m a 41-year-old, very attractive, happily married woman. My husband and I have been Click here to read
Still Spreading by Dan Savage I am 50 and a lesbian. I have had a pretty active sex life for the last 30 years. For the last three Click here to read
Safety Valve by Dan Savage I am a straight man. From high school through college and after, I loved me some women. Then I met my Click here to read
She Will Not Be Ignored by Dan Savage I’ve written before, but I didn’t hear back from you—probably because my e-mail Click here to read
Raw Dog by Dan Savage I read your column every week, mostly out of abstract interest. My thoughts reading your advice are usually some Click here to read
That Said by Dan Savage I’m from the other side of the country, but I’m sitting in my lover’s San Francisco apartment Click here to read
Dan Savage at U of Montana – Do you let your son listen to the podcast? Dan Savage at University of Montana – The Question: Click here to read
Dan Savage at U of Montana – Day Dreaming during Sex Dan Savage at University of Montana – The Question: When I have sex my Click here to read
Dan Savage at U of Montana – Changing Gender Pronouns Dan Savage at University of Montana – The Question: I have recently Click here to read
The Armed Forces by Dan Savage Three months ago, my sociopathic girlfriend dumped me because I was going into the military. Afterward, Click here to read
Dan at U of Montana: A girl must decide to sleep with either a fat man or a skinny man. Dan Savage at the University of Montana: The Click here to read
Dan Savage at U of Montana: How to avoid developing a porn addiction in Montana. Dan Savage at University of Montana – The Question: Click here to read
Dan Savage at U of Montana – Strangest place someone's had sex? Dan Savage at University of Montana – The Question: Where Click here to read
A Biggest Marital Problems Post You’ve all been on fire this week with your comments (in a good way). I figured I might as well add some fuel. Click here to read
Someone emailed me this question: “I want my husband to take some of the initiative in fixing our marriage, but he seems completely unable to do Click here to read
As my long-time readers know, I love to scout for life lessons in the most mundane of places, such as elevators, foreign countries, and airplanes. Click here to read
A Biggest Marital Problems Post The question: Are sexual emails cheating? Is putting a personal ad on Craigslist cheating? In my eyes it is. In his Click here to read
Back in the 1970s and 1980s, there was a lot of talk about the inner child in all of us and the parents who screwed those inner children up. People Click here to read
I guess you might call this Housekeeping Week here at ProjectHappilyEverAfter.com. Yesterday you got tips on bathroom organization. Today another Click here to read
… And Everyone Who Uses It Did that headline pull you right in? Did you think, “Fall back in love? Whaa?” Good. Yesterday, you Click here to read
Gretchen Rubin A few years ago, several publishers turned down the opportunity to publish Project: Happily Ever After (that’s my new book Click here to read
A Biggest Marital Problems Post The Question: I am not in love with my husband anymore. I do love him, and have complete respect for him. I just Click here to read
Grandma, circa 1990, as drawn by me Grandma died last night. She was 94. It was not unexpected. She’s had dementia for many years, which means Click here to read
Three-wayward by Dan Savage I am a 36-year-old straight man, blissfully married to my 34-year-old soul mate. We have explored and Click here to read
An Affair to Forget by Dan Savage My mother left her e-mail logged in on my computer, and I decided to be an asshole and snoop out of Click here to read
No Choke by Dan Savage I’m a 27-year-old divorced woman. I married the first man I ever had sex with, and we had a very vanilla Click here to read
Love Is… by Dan Savage I really need some help and comfort. I am a straight 25-year-old woman, and I’ve been dating my Click here to read
Many of you have written me, tweeted me, Facebooked me and channeled me about your thoughts about Project: Happily Ever After. Please consider Click here to read
I included a reading guide in Project: Happily Ever After for a reason. It’s this: it was at book club that I opened up for the first time Click here to read
For the next few weeks, here at PHEA, I’d like to address the most vexing problems you face in your marriage. Please list them here in the Click here to read
Last night, I sat next to my husband and I watched the Tour Down Under (a bicycle race). By watched, I mean this: I stared in the direction of the Click here to read
The same cabbie who told me that all women are hopeless nags also had this absolutely beautiful thing to say about juggling. He told me that we all Click here to read
This weekend, Tom and Melissa of TheLongHaulProject were here to film us for a documentary they are making about marriage. During the filming Click here to read
Yesterday, a cabbie was taking me from a television station in Arlington to the train station in DC. He asked me why I’d been on TV. I told him I Click here to read
I’ve written many times that men don’t have ESP. Neither do women. This is an important point to remember because many marital arguments take Click here to read
How and Why to Drop the Rope When my marriage was bad, it felt like a constant game of tug of war. My husband decided he’d rather ride his bike Click here to read
Recently someone asked me about the difference between expectations and boundaries. I told him that expectations are what you hope will happen. Click here to read
Dan Savage at U of Montana – How to avoid a sexless relationship with someone you love? Dan Savage at University of Montana – Click here to read
Dan Savage at U of Montana – Husband and I have been sexually incompatible since the beginning Dan Savage at University of Montana Click here to read
Symptomatic by Dan Savage I am a 23-year-old straight female. A year ago, I moved across the country after college to live with my Click here to read
Dan Savage at U of Montana – Is Missoula scarier for gay people as Billings? Dan Savage at University of Montana: The Question Click here to read
Dan Savage at U of Montana – Boyfriend won't go down on girlfriend because it's gross. Dan Savage at University of Montana Click here to read
The Crying Game by Dan Savage Any time I have relationship questions, I always ask my inner Dan Savage, and he never leads me astray! Click here to read
Dan Savage at U of Montana – Wise to start a relationship via long distance? Dan Savage at University of Montana: The Question Click here to read
A reader brought something to my attention. She said if I was really getting better at asking for help, how come I haven’t asked you all to Click here to read
As you all know, my book Project: Happily Ever After is about to be published. Amazon will begin shipping copies this Wednesday (December 15th). I Click here to read
I was getting ready to mail copies of Project: Happily Ever After to various people (including those of you who won my recent giveaway). I had a Click here to read
Earlier this week, I walked into an elevator in a big building in New York. The elevator doors closed, and that’s when I realized that the inside Click here to read
Dan Savage at U of Montana – OK to try and get pregnant without telling him? Dan Savage at University of Montana – The Click here to read